In my other life … Do you ever feel like you have another life or maybe your life is split?
That is how I feel lots of time. I have my life on the internet and my life out in the “real” world.
My Online Life
In my online life…
I know all of you and am involved in a great community of bloggers and internet marketers from all over the world. I have met several of my best friends. I have friends that I can call at 1:00am when my blog crashes, friends that help me when I do not know what I am doing or what to do, friends that will teach me what I do not know and friends that are there for me when ever I need help. I love my online friends and community. Without all of you I do not know what I would do. Sometimes I feel more connected to people online than I do off line and I know I have more friends online.
Online I write blogs, Ebooks, articles, comments, make membership sites, take e-courses, and try to market my products as well as products of others.
Sometimes though I think I can learn valuable lessons from my offline life that apply to my online life. If you have read some of my other posts you know I have talked about lessons learned in A Fish Story! and how they apply to the internet. I also have shared a little about “My Other Life” in My Life Off The Internet, and Taking A Break Can Be Fun And Productive!.
I want to again look at “My Other Life” and some lessons learned.
My Other Life…
So in my other life I have a husband, 5 children, 3 step children and 9 grandchildren. Two of my children still live at home, a son 14 and a daughter 17. I home school my son and my daughter is a Junior (year 11) in high school and a Freshman (1st year) in college, she is dual enrolled in high school and college.
I go to work everyday or at least when there is school and I drive a School Bus.
On the school bus there are between 45 and 55 children between the ages of 5 and 12 sitting in 12 seats behind me.
If you are a parent, aunt, uncle or have just watched a friends children you know how rowdy a couple of kids can get. You also know what it is like to try to drive a car without being distracted by the kids in the backseat. I have as many as 55 kids in my backseat.
I have a rear view mirror that is not to see behind the bus but to see behind my seat. Now think about me driving a school bus. I am the only adult on the bus. Actually I am the only person on the bus older than 12.
When there is fighting going on behind me or worst yet a fist fight, it is awfully tempting to want to just look in the rear view mirror and holler names over the mic.
The problem with this is I am driving 55 mph (90kph) down a two lane road with no shoulders. If I am looking back I can not see what is happening in front of me and that could be disastrous to say the least.
Since I can not be looking back and hollering at the kids when I am driving down the highway I have to develop a way of managing the children so I can drive without being distracted. I do this in several different ways.
- I have a seating chart and everyone sits where I say.
- We practice being silent when the interior lights go on twice a day for about 2 minute. This is important in case of an emergency or if driving conditions are bad and I need to concentrate.
- We go over rules frequently and anyone who does not sit safe is talked to individually.
I am sure there are more but you get the idea it takes planning and implementation of the plan to be able to drive with 55 children sitting in the back seat.
My Online Life And Offline Life Collide
When I am driving the bus it is a matter of life and death that I look ahead and not behind. I also am forced to plan and implement the plan or I can not do the job that I am hired to do – get 55 students to school and home again safely.
In my online life I also need to stay looking forward. To many times I think we all want to look back for one reason or another. The trouble with looking back is we can not see where we are going. We lose sight of our goals and everything starts to fall apart. Pretty soon we have a crash and things really fall apart. We can not blog or market on the internet by looking back. We need to focus on what is in front of us just as on the bus I need to be watching the road not 55 kids sitting behind me. I know I am guilty of this a lot – well not on the bus but online. I start looking back and concentrating on things that should of been done but never got done. Then I don’t get the things done that need to be done now. Many times we just need to let go of the past and start where we are. We need to keep looking forward and we will get a lot further.
Plans need to be made and implemented just as I have to plan on the bus and implement my plan. I also need to plan in my online life. Goals are also important.
A few months ago on January 1, 2012 we all made resolutions, plans and goals for the new year. Have you implemented the plan? Are you achieving your goals? Without a plan or goals nothing happens but, if you do not implement the plan and achieve your goals you will have chaos. Just like I would have on the bus if I did not have a plan, goals and implement the plan in order to achieve the goals.
When I started driving I had chaos on my bus and driving was a real challenge. Then I created a plan and set goals, implemented my plan and have achieved most of my goals. So, if your online life is in chaos, go back to your plan and goals. Start looking forward and see what is in front of you. No one can drive looking in the rear view mirror.